PEPLOVE.COM: Love on the World Wide Web with Sera Miles, Part 2

Love on the World Wide Web with Sera Miles, Part 2

The following article is excerpted from Nancy Ava Miller's award-winning book, Pervert: Notes from the Sexual Underground. If you missed our previous post, from which this one continues, you can check it out here.

The ability to correspond quickly and efficiently via e-mail provides online daters, kinky and vanilla, with the mechanism to screen potential partners. The anonymity of e-mail (i.e., Don’t send that superclear photo of yourself until you feel that you will meet in person soon.) allows us to discuss issues from how deeply we want to delve into forced feminization to our views on religion, politics, and family life. Use this opportunity. Correspond for weeks with a potential play partner and lover. Many people use the Internet to find an occasional play partner, or even a onetime play partner; the Net can be an excellent device for such hookups. But if you seek a long-term lover—a Mistress or Sir Right, the sweet submissive ready to bow to your most demanding yearnings—then please take your time. Unlike a first date with a friend of a friend (read—a near stranger), Internet dating means you can “date” via correspondence for as long as it feels comfortable.

What is, you ask, a great Internet ad? Something like . . .

Memorable Lessons Await You!

TeachurBottom: Dominant Female Spanking Fetishist seeks a naughty schoolboy or girl for a full-time real life relationship—in the schoolroom and beyond. Are you turned on by the notion of spanking? The act of spanking? By uniforms, canes, paddles, and extensive role play? Discreet, well-educated, and a seasoned player, I am in my mid-thirties and divorced, no children. I seek a partner who is also single and well-educated, between the ages of 30-55.

When I’m not wielding my rulers and canes, I love simple evenings of dinner and a movie, or, better yet, attending a play or musical performance. Books are among my dearest friends, and I find they make excellent bedfellows. I feel it’s time, though, to fall asleep with a book on my nightstand and a red-bottomed lover next to me.

If all of the above interests you, I invite your serious, sincere, and polite communiqué.

Note that in the above ad, the handle, TeachurBottom, immediately tells Web site scanners that the ad poster is interested in spanking; plus, the handle and title imply schoolroom role play. Then the ad clearly describes the lady’s most important-to-her fetishes, and it gives the reader insight into her life as a whole. Take the time to describe what is most important to you with attention to brevity and clarity. Whether you are communicating via e-mail, Internet ad, print ad, letter, or phone, always be polite and respectful. Remember you are communicating with a woman, a man, a person, a potential love interest. Treat that individual with the same kindness and delicacy that you would treat any virtual stranger.

Kinky sites that include personal ads proliferate on the World Wide Web. Many fetish-specific sites include personals; and if you are an adult baby, for example, or spanking enthusiast, you might first place an ad (and search through ads) on a site devoted to your kink. Two popular, general kinky sites, though, I personally recommend. These sites cater to and welcome fetishists of all varieties. I've personally used alt.com, and many of my kinky friends adore collarme.com. Both sites allow you to include a write-up like the one above and then fill in basic information about your age, location, interests, and the like through prompts. They also permit posters to include multiple photographs.

Collarme is free, and there users create blogs, make “friends,” and chat. Alt offers similar options and allows you to post free ads, but some other Alt services cost money. Check out Alt’s special chart listing degrees of membership. Consider placing free ads on both sites, and then decide if a paid membership to Alt looks worthwhile for you. Keep in mind that in addition to finding a like-minded lover, you might also find good, kinky friends on these Web sites.

Although you may pay for your membership to Alt, you should not end up paying anyone you meet on a personals Web site. The sites discourage professional advertisements; if you suspect that you are reading an ad from a pro-domme, escort agency, or any related enterprise, or otherwise communicating with a professional, you can and should report your concerns to the site’s Web master.

As you delve into the online world of kink, peruse the personal ads. You’ll soon see how many people share your erotic obsession. And perhaps, given a smart ad and a little kismet, you’ll find the right pervert with whom to share your passions and life.